I neglected to say something very important yesterday which Katie pulled me up on just before bedtime. Charlie didn’t go to Paris as my PA but as my friend: that is she expected nothing in return. This is an important distinction to make. Disabled people need and thus in any civilised society have a right to help. This changes the relationship between that of helped / helper to that of employee / employer. While any good employer will appreciate what his or her employees do, they are paid to do it. The difference comes when nothing is asked for in return, and when people act out of friendship and kindness. I just think we should recognise that for the remarkable thing it is.