Tom Dailey apparently came out today. Frankly I don’t care an nor should anyone else. Why is it in the news? What concern of ours is it whether Dailey is gay, straight, bi or whatever as long as he is happy and can still swim fast. If you ask me, we need to escape these labels altogether; we need to go beyond categorising people. We need to forget about words like ‘gay’ ‘straight’ ‘black’ and ‘white’ and even to an extent ‘man’ and ‘woman’. These words do not signify categories but create semiotic devisions, and devisions create prejudices and equalities. Remember your Lacan: it is language that structures thought rather than the other way around. Above all we are all human and the rest is language. In short we need to get beyond categorisation and just let people be themselves.

In my own case, I love lyn, a pre-op transwoman. Does hat make me gay, straight or bi? Legally Lyn is a woman, so ours is a straight relationship, but others might see it differently. At the end of the day, however, does it matter? How does what you call it in any way effect our love? I have a Lyn, and she has a Matt, and we love each other. End of debate. In the same way, Tom Dailey is still Tom Dailey, and all other concerns are just a matter of labelling.